What amazes me more, is that y'all live in the same damn world as me and still don't understand the detached method of living that I've chosen. I don't know how y'all survive....
But here's what I do know:
You can miss someone, but still not want them around you.
As is life, we meet people, we get to know people, we form friendships and relationships with people, we end up getting both the good and the bad from people. Does that mean you have to accept their bad in your life forever? Nope. Does that mean you forget the good that is there? Nope. But when the bad outweighs the good, it's best to simply walk away. Smile about the good shit when you feel like it, but leave it there.
You can love someone from afar, just the same as you can up close.
When the bad outweighs the good, and you walk away, it doesn't mean you have to stop caring about that person. You can care for someone from far away, just the same as you can up close. I mean, seriously...it's fine to think of someone often, legitimately wish them the best in life - doesn't mean you have to tell them that. Telling them won't change anything, anyhow. So when the good goes bad, step back and stand there....care, but not at your own expense.
When you throw unnecessary emotions out the window - the first one to crawl back is happiness.
Misery loves company, oh yes, that do be true. And people will always try to put their shit on you, like you ain't already got enough of your own shit going on. You have to start deciding what is necessary, and what's not. Not everyone's problem is your problem. Not everyone's feelings have to become your feelings. If it has no direct impact on you and your well being, block that negative shit out at all costs.
This one is tough, and sometimes it looks a bit psychotic, at least for me. But please know, if you are ever trying to bring your drama to me, trying to involve me in something that I don't need to be involved in, or are just flat out being nasty and trying to hurt my feelings....you'll see a blank look fall over my face like all emotion just left my body - because that's exactly what happened. Chances are I zoned out to think about pit bull puppies and mud trucks just long enough to forget what you just said. And chances are, the next words out of my mouth are going to be, "nah, not today bro." and I'm gonna skip right over that and go right back to smiling.
When you finally master this and manage to get all the negative gone from your life, there's gonna be way more room for positive shit to enter...and the effect that's gonna be left is called happiness.
Once you get happiness back, the only thing you have to do from there on out....is protect it.
Once you finally get to this point, where the happiness comes back and takes over, you'll embrace the shit out of it. When your happiness becomes solely based on yourself and no one else, the only thing you'll want to do is protect it. And then, when some tool-shed walks into your life and tries to take it from you, you'll repeat all the above steps without even knowing it. And when people you don't expect to ever do you wrong do, and they will, you'll repeat the above steps and it'll be easier for you. That's when you will discover that you can sit at your house all alone and be just as happy as you would be surrounded by a group of people. Either way - you're gonna be just fine, because you are now in control.
Now, I'm not saying this applies to everybody, of course you need to be there for your family, for the ones that you have met along the way that are more good than bad. When you find good people, you gotta hold on to those people for dear life...like, both hands, white knuckles, don't ever let go.
...because they are the ones who are gonna laugh at you when you let something serious roll off your back like it's nothing.
...they are the ones who are gonna have your back when someone tries to hurt you.
...they are the ones who are gonna understand you.
...they are the ones who are gonna be happy for, and enjoy the happiness with you.
...they are the ones who are gonna make you kermit the frog memes.
...they are the ones who are gonna make it all worth it.
#detachfuckers #thankmelater
