Rocked this song this morning and it got me thinking...also got me itching to write.
"So what made you think that you could take a life and just push it and push it around? I guess to build yourself up so high you had to take her and break her down?" - Keith Urban
Men....nah, I'm not even going to start by generalizing it...let's start over.
Insecure jealous holier-than-thou controlling asshole men...this is just for you. Who do you really think YOU are? What really makes you believe that you can OWN a person? That you can take their freedoms and their privileges away because YOU aren't comfortable with yourself? What is it about YOU that is so damn awesome that you believe you have the power to tell another human what they can and cannot do? What makes YOU so much better than someone else that you feel like you are allowed to make decisions for them? I really need answers to these questions, because I think that maybe I'm missing something here. I'm pretty sure that being in a relationship doesn't mean that you get to be in charge of a person...it means that you are supposed to be the first one there to support them, and the one that loves and cares for them at all costs, the one that understands and forgives (not punishes) their mistakes.
Actually, no - I'm not missing anything here...It is what it is, and it is this: If you are so insecure and jealous that it drives you to the point of throwing child-like tantrums for no damn good given reason - maybe what you need to do, instead of trying to take authority over someone else, is take a look at yourself. Ask yourself why you're so insecure...is it because you're lame? Is it because you have nothing to offer? Is it because you're nowhere in life and you have no priorities or goals or dreams? Is it because she's way too damn good for you in the first place and you're scared shit-less that someone that's more on her level is going to come along and steal her away? Oooh, I bet that struck a nerve.
But seriously, if you were actually as great and awesome and holy and such a damn bang-up fuckin' person like you think you are, your tactic to keep a good woman that YOU don't deserve should be to make something of yourself so that you can bring something to the table, be her solid person that she can go to for support in anything, be the one person she can depend on whenever she is need...be the one that truly LOVES her, not the one that doesn't deserve her but even still, insists on babysitting her.
"It took a while for her to figure out that she could run, but when she did she was long gone, long gone." - Keith Urban
Now women, don't go thinking that you're gonna get off easy on this one. Get your shit together, would ya? The more you let these fuckers get by with, the more they're gonna try. And the more you let them control you, the harder it's going to be to bust lose. And for fuck's sake, don't make excuses for these ass-hats! While you're coming up with reasons to try and convince yourself that it's okay...guess who else is thinking that it is okay? Mmmmhmmm.
So, he only acts that way because someone else cheated on him? BULLSHIT! He's only that jealous because he loves you so much? BULLSHIT! It's all mind games. He just wants you to feel sorry for him so that he continue on about dictating your life. You let him continue to get by with more and more shit...and then suddenly you're neglecting your own self worth. And once your self worth is gone, he's gonna have you right where he wants you, thinking you don't deserve any better. Stop that shit as soon as it starts, you're a grown ass woman!
And because you're a grown ass woman, you don't have to bring proof of what time you clocked out from work home with you. You don't have to change your phone number to prevent people from calling you. You don't have to give a play by play scenario of what's going down every time you leave the house. You're a grown ass woman, and as a grown ass woman the only things you are required to do are eat, shit, sleep, die...and demand that you're significant other treat you like the grown ass woman that you are.
Find your backbone, stand your ass up, and tell that punk that you're not going to comply with his rules and regulations. Tell him that he's either going to love and trust you like he should, or he can hit the damn road. If he honestly loves you, he will drop his stupid shit and act right in fear of losing you. If he chooses the road, then well..there's your answer. If he wants to be a stupid boy, you let him go be someone else's stupid boy...that way, you won't end being his stupid girl.
